When you have to go, you have to go.

Today, I was in Walmart when I noticed an employee suddenly take off running, almost leaving his cell phone behind. At first, I thought he was responding to an urgent internal message. But then I realized that familiar urgency – he was running to the bathroom. This blog piece is about keeping it real, discussing things your healthcare provider might not tell you because men generally don’t like to expose anything they perceive as a weakness.

One of the treatment options for prostate cancer is the removal of the prostate (prostatectomy). During this procedure, a sphincter is removed. The sphincter is a muscle that controls the release of urine from the bladder. Without it, you might experience more frequent urination and a stronger urge to go.

After surgery, you'll likely be instructed to do exercises to strengthen the muscles controlling your urine flow. Despite these exercises, you'll probably find yourself peeing more than usual. Resist the temptation to drink less; instead, time your drinking so you have ready access to a bathroom. Here are some practical suggestions:

1. Don’t wait until you feel you have to urinate. Set an alarm to go every 15 minutes. After about a week, increase the time until you’ve established a workable interval.

2. Urinate before you leave. Always make a pit stop before heading out.

3. Keep a container in your car. This can be a lifesaver during long drives or when you can't find a restroom.

4. Keep a container by your bedside. This helps avoid nighttime accidents.

5. Keep a stash of Depends in your car and day pack. Better safe than sorry!

The good news is that the frequency and urgency will lessen after a couple of months, but they might not completely diminish. The fact remains that you’re minus a sphincter.

Hope this helps! Remember, it's all about managing the new normal with a bit of humor and practicality.

The Crowns Project has a program called “Goal Assist Kit.” Recovering from prostate surgery can be challenging, but Goal Assist is here to provide essential support. Our program offers a complimentary three-month supply of incontinence undergarments to men during their postoperative period, ensuring a smooth transition back to everyday life. Specifically designed for those who may not qualify for Medicaid or Medicare Advantage, this initiative allows men to focus on healing without financial worries. Please contact anton@crownsproject to learn how you can sponsor a Goal Assist Kit or become a sponsor.